Why Men Lose Interest? Prevent it From Happening to You!

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Why Men Lose Interest and Ghost You- Breaking-up with a person who likes you is never easy. It requires you to have that awkward ‘break-up’ talk. It’s especially difficult when your partner doesn’t see it coming.

And because it’s an uncomfortable conversation, many people don’t want to do it… Instead, they resort to ghosting or fading away as a means of breaking up with someone. If you’ve ever been ghosted, you know how terrible it can be.

So, in this article, I’m going to explain why men lose interest, why you shouldn’t do it, and give you practical steps to get over it fast.

To skip straight to the answer, check out this video that reveals WHY MEN LOSE INTEREST AND how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves.

 Many women have the frustrating experience of going out with a guy on one or a few dates, thinking that things go well between the two of them, and then having that guy suddenly stop calling and disappear

 

It is probably not a big deal when it happens with one or two guys, but if that is your experience with men over and over.

it is hard to not take this personally and not start believing that there is something about you that turns men off and makes those men lose interest in you.

While every dating situation and every interaction between people is unique and different and thus the reasons behind the guy losing interest are just as different, there are several common causes of that loss of interest beyond the typical

no chemistry’ situation and the very common situation where the guy is simply not interested in dating one woman and he is driven toward sexual novelty and variety regardless of who he meets today

The following are the six top reason why guys lose interest and what you can do to eliminate those possible causes of losing interest and thus increase your chances of retaining the guy’s interest and desire to be with you for a longer time:

1. You are not attractive enough.

It is a cruel fact but a very true fact that if a woman is not physically attractive enough, there will still be guys who will be willing to go out with her but that won’t usually last.

While there is only so much we can do to improve our looks and be more attractive, there is one major step that a woman can take to become more attractive –

  • losing weight.

This is not to say that the woman who doesn’t have excess weight should lose weight and be thinner -no, that’s not the point. The very interesting fact is this:

if you are not overweight – if your body is reasonably lean and/or tones, chances are that unless there is some disfigurement in your face or body, you are probably attractive and sexually desirable for most guys.

If you are overweight, it is critically important that you start losing weight and building a more attractive body.

This will have all kinds of positive consequences on your life – from

  • health benefits
  • having more energy
  • more confidence
  • and of course – more attention from men

In short, losing weight and having a more attractive body will change and improve every single moment of your life.

There are simply no reasons to wait and postpone achieving this goal any longer.

2. You talk too much.

No matter how smart a person is, if he dominates a conversation, he will be boring and even be tiring to the other person.

I and my friends met some incredibly beautiful women over the course of our dating lives, but we simply couldn’t stand being around some of them because they simply wouldn’t stop talking and wouldn’t shot up.

While it’s obvious when someone else talks a lot, it’s not nearly as noticeable when you have to evaluate your own conversational habits.

Thus, I encourage you to ask your friends whether they think you talk too much or interrupt their conversation or otherwise dominate your interaction.

Encourage them to be honest and not tell you what you want to hear, but instead – tell you how it is.

3. You are too uptight.

This girl told me once on the phone that she couldn’t meet me because her car broke down, to which I replied: “Well, that’s what happens when you let women drive.

” Instead of laughing at the comment as most women would, she got angry, thought I was serious, hung up on me and later demanded an apology.

Few things are bigger turn-offs and are more unattractive than a woman who can’t take a joke and who says ‘Ahh, how dare you!’ instead of laughing at an inappropriate comment or sexual innuendo and dishing one of her own

Dark humor, sarcasm, and sexual comments are a spice life and love life for every interesting, ambitious guy.

If you are interested in dating and having a relationship with one, you should consider stopping to take yourself too seriously, open your mind and enjoy dark humor, rather than being intimidated by it or judge it.

To skip straight to the answer, check out this video that reveals WHY MEN LOSE INTEREST AND how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves.

4. You are boring.

If you don’t have much to say, thoughts to share and ways to respond with to what the guy says thinks and believes in, you are not going to catch a great guy’s interest for very long.

 Boring dates feel like torture, and no one is interested in going into one or sticking around when they realize that they have to push the conversation to simply fill the time
  • Surely there is no shortcut to becoming a more interesting person, but there is a great, long-term solution
  • you started learning more things about yourself,
  • about your environment and the world.
  • TV,
  • magazines
  • books,
  • meeting new people
  •  watching shoes,
  • and engaging in social events will give you much more material to think about and form your views on.

Surely, there is a lot of junk out there on TV and in magazines, but there is also lots of good material, and it is your duty to choose and “filter” the bad stuff out.

As you become a more interesting woman, this will go far beyond improving your dating life and will make you

  • much more attractive
  •  interesting to your friends,
  • co-workers
  • nd will likely create new social
  • and professional opportunities

for you that you didn’t even think existed and were available to you.

5. You are excessively independent/feminist.

For many women, it’s a life crusade showing and proving to guys and to themselves that they can be all a man can and more in every way.

I fully support equality and full opportunities for women. However, when it comes at the account of femininity and elegance – women pay a high price of becoming very unattractive to the opposite sex.

It’s a fundamental law of nature that masculine, confident, attractive men are attracted to the opposite – feminine women – women who possess

  • a feminine voice
  • walk
  • and manners.

Don’t take me wrong. I would never suggest that a woman should stay home and cook and clean. This is not what it is about.

A woman can be very educated and successful and still retain her femininity and be proud of being a woman.

Stop hiding the fact that you are different from guys. You are and it’s good news – good for you and for men.

There is a saying “Bitches get corner office.” I seriously doubt it. Part of being professional and romantically successful has always been being a lady, and being a lady and a “bitch” are mutually exclusive.

To skip straight to the answer, check out this video that reveals WHY MEN LOSE INTEREST AND how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves.

6. You are a victim of your past –

many women have a bad relationship with a guy who is controlling and possessive at least once in their lives.

Breaking up with such a guy feels like a very liberating experience – like

  • putting more air in your lungs,
  • letting your tied wings go free if you will

A woman who undergoes such a bad relationship in, which she submitted to the guy’s control and possessiveness, jumps into another extreme with the other guys that she meets later.

She makes it a point to show to every guy she meets that she is not going to “obey” him and do what she wants.

She will do the opposite from what the guys ask or suggest just for the sake of showing that no one can tell her what to do and that she decides what she does for herself.

This is unfortunate because it creates unnecessary problems and challenges in communication.

If you believe that you create such challenges in your interaction with men, you should do your best to not let your past negative experience with a jealous guy affect your present and future interactions with men.

7. You are not a good sex partner.

Many women either ruin the romantic tension and the connection with the guy in bed.

Few women act in a way that will make sleeping with them a great, memorable experience that the guy is eager to repeat.

Some of the big turn-offs for guys are women who are either too quiet in bed (not making any sounds that would indicate their enjoyment and would look like they are bored) or those who talk too much or say something inappropriate and irrelevant at the very wrong time.

Not many women know what they are doing with their hands and their mouth when it comes to the man’s body.

If a man had a mediocre experience sleeping with you for the first time, he is unlikely to want to do that again.

This might sound extreme, but I truly believe that there is no better way to learn how to be a better sex partner than by observation.

Thus, I urge you to not be afraid to rent erotic or even quality pornographic movies that will inspire you and will give you some great ideas on how to make your sexual experience more sensational and satisfying to both you and the guy.

Make no mistake about it –

This kind of skill is not common, and your guy, especially if he has “been around the block” will appreciate it because he knows that this is not common.

It is impossible to fully protect yourself from dating a guy who will lose interest in you at any point.

However, by paying attention to the above six possible issues that you might be having in your interactions with guys, you will dramatically improve the chances of keeping any guy’s interest and coming across as a more attractive and desirable woman.

If you’ve ever been flirting with the guy you’re dating someone and overtime.

You can feel their interest just start to fade that just started becoming more and more distant.

Maybe you have a hunch that it’s something you did.

Maybe you’re just absolutely clueless.

You have no idea why this started happening in this article.

I’m going to break down a few attraction killers that really drive men away and we’ll give you a little bit more insight into the male mind.

You might be frustrated with the current dating scene. You might be passionate about being in a relationship with a loving commitment-minded man.

And this site really goes into some of the best ways to break through any of the struggles that you may be experiencing today.

So you can find and connect with these real high-quality men.

this is really one of the most common reasons as to Why Men Lose Interest in all relationships is neediness.

To skip straight to the answer, check out this video that reveals WHY MEN LOSE INTEREST AND how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves.

 

#8 NEEDINESS.

Neediness is this idea You as my partner are giving me my own self-worth my own validation.

  • You’re giving me quality time with another human. You’re giving me entertainment.
  • You’re giving me security.
  • You’re giving me excitement.

Whatever it is. It’s this idea that my inner needs are being fulfilled by this external person.

And when we start putting that level of expectation on another person to fill us to give us what we need, it places pressure on that person

typically when people especially men are put in this pressure-cooker situation.

They have a fight-or-flight mentality and oftentimes its flight. They’re out of there.

It’s like too much too soon, too needy and the effect that neediness has on us personally is really detrimental meatiness is basically putting the strong expectation that you need a specific outcome to happen.

You need him to act this way. You need him to do that when we live life and have these Needs in these expectations.

What inevitably happens is that life doesn’t go the way we planned. We don’t always get what we want and as a result of this strong innate inner need that we’re putting out into the world in a way, we can never ever get that fully met. So we’re kind of walking on eggshells.

It’s like, oh my gosh this needs to be met and if it’s not I’m going to go into either being overly controlling or I’m going to try to manipulate the situation.

Maybe I’m friendlier or more giving or more sensitive or whatever. I think I need to be to try to get that whatever I’m looking for from the other person or I do the opposite approach instead of kind of trying to manipulate.

I become overly dependent and I just trust and hope that that person will fill me with whatever it is that I’m looking for from them.
 either of these which are kind of on Polar sides of a relationship plane either being overly controlling.
 By the way, being controlling does not always Manifest is just being aggressive and dominant being.
controlling can be just being super friendly super nice in hopes that they’ll give you what you want.
It can be Insidious and we might not even realize that we’re doing it.

This is really the hard part because I’m the outsider. It looks like

  • we’re doing all the right
  • we’re being super friendly
  • we’re being very giving a nice

And yet the motives, if we look a little bit deeper to our deeper motives, was realizing wow.

there are some expectations there, you know, if I do this, I expect that and the moment that we start placing all of these needs and expectations on our partner the more pressure we put on ourselves now,

this is different.

I’m already hearing the voices of like the angry comment troll saying what are you trying to say David are you trying to say that we shouldn’t expect anything from a man or you saying that we shouldn’t we don’t deserve any giving no.

Of course, you need to be with someone that is going to give back. You need to be with someone who David loves and cares about you and gives back to you. But there’s this idea of when we have a specific need that we absolutely rely or depend wholeheartedly on another person for that.

We’re not going to be okay without that other person fulfilling that.

that’s where the problem comes in. because at some point in time any partner you have, even if it’s the most loving caring person in the world, they’re not going to fully meet every single meet in expectation you have that’s Perfection and I haven’t found it yet.

If you find it leave a comment and direct me over to this perfect person.

I would love to meet them. So towards the end of the article. I’ll give you more strategies to deal with neediness just know that if we’re not going to be okay unless someone else does something or takes a certain action.

We’re placing ourselves in a position to be hurt and that’s a problem. And that’s where needing this comes in and this really can drive away a quality person.
Why Men Lose Interest

#9 INSECURITY

Now, the NINTH attraction killer is insecurity and insecurity really means a lack of confidence.

Us believing that there’s some aspect or Of ourselves. That’s just unattractive.

That’s unappealing. We’re not happy about it. We might feel some shame some guilt about it and insecurity is a feeling an emotion that is very easily transmitted to other people.

if we surround ourselves with other people and we’re in this constant state of insecurity the other person feels that and it’s actually scientifically proven.

There are neuroscientists that study the brain when you are in the room and sharing space with another person your brain waves start to align more another person doesn’t want to feel these emotions.

And so the more that we have these negative emotions of insecurity.

We actually project that onto the people that we’re spending time with and that is an attraction killer and I’m going to give you a strong example about perspective and confidence and how it can really flip around anything of insecurity that we may be feeling at this point.

I was online dating and I was very insecure because I was in the midst of losing a lot of weight I lost over until A hundred and twenty pounds and during that time. I have a very strict food plan.

I wait for all of my food. I didn’t eat out at restaurants and I was really insecure very afraid because the people around me were saying David, how are you going to date and go out without eating in a restaurant? It’s going to be so weird.
She’s going to be eating in front of you and you’re not going to eat anything.
How awkward is that and we kept going on and on and I was so insecure about it and I remember one day I went online and I looked at this profile.
I wish I knew this woman because I mentioned her all the time and on her profile.

I’m not even kidding here her whole profile was written in like capital letters. It was all in caps lock and it said something to the effect of I’m a fitness model.

I cook a hundred percent of my food.

So if you want to impress me, you better be a little bit more creative than just dinner and a movie and I read this and I was like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait a second. I cook a hundred percent of my food.

I feel really weird about it. And here you are putting it in capital letters on your online dating profile.

First of all, who talks in capital letters on their profile Second of all, she’s telling something that I felt really insecure about as a source of Pride really showed me the power of personal acceptance.

 

we may have things that the majority of people might not find super attractive.

But the truth of the matter is life is imperfect.

people have all sorts of different challenges, have all sorts of different things that we’re facing in life and the more that we can learn to love and accept the imperfection is MM of our self, the more that we can actually project confidence security and the feelings that other people really want.

other people are inspired to have and if we can take something that maybe our society might consider unattractive and we can face that with complete love and acceptance the amount of attraction that can create is really really powerful.

So Know that feelings of insecurity could really be a big detriment to a relationship.

Now the third reason as to Why Men Lose Interest and I’m going to relate this to royalty is

#10 NOT ACTING LIKE A QUEEN.

Now what I mean by that is if you can imagine the woman that you respect most in this world, someone, you truly admire and look up to, it could be

  • a mentor
  • a friend
  • a relative
  • might be someone that you don’t know personally
  • could be a famous person
  • could be someone from history that you just look at this person

Say wow the way that they walk through life. It’s just incredible.

They’re inspiring their Noble they confident when you look at this person and think about how they would act in certain situations and then compare that to how you act in certain situations.

There may be a gap. Now, how wide of that Gap really determines your level of attraction.

So, for example, I actually force myself to go into an office every day when I go to work because if I didn’t it would be way too easy for me to work from home to maybe not shower.

To maybe not get dressed, but that wouldn’t feel good to me. I wouldn’t know I feel so much better about myself when I wake up and shower and exercise and get dressed and I take the actions that I would imagine the man.

I respect most in this world would take that he would treat himself healthfully.

He would give back to others he would take care of his obligation. He would act with a certain nobility when no one was looking he wouldn’t just sit around and act like a horrible person.

He would act the same exact way when no one else was watching him.

And if he did something kind or giving to another person he doesn’t need to go out of his way to tell everybody what he did.

He just that’s who he is.

He’s not doing it for the validation. He’s not doing it for other people he’s doing it because that’s the right thing because he’s living a truly Noble life.

That’s the man that I imagine if you can imagine this as well of the woman if you are taking actions in your life that are far from the woman that you imagine what that’s putting out into the world.

Now, I’m just going to assume that 95% of the women reading this article do not have an issue with this because this channel really does attract some very ambitious smart intelligent driven women.

However, it’s something to be aware of it’s something to really think about because it is an attraction killer when we don’t act in a way that is attractive to higher quality men the way we might be acting might be attractive to some people but not necessarily the types of people that we want to attract.

It’s something to think about and have perspective on the need to be aware of but here’s the bottom line you’re aware of these things, but you’re thinking OK great David, maybe I did something maybe I didn’t the point is the guy is going away.

He’s losing interest. What do I do?

How do I deal with this? I got it. So let’s look at the fact of the matter chasing this man will never work and by chasing him what I really mean is taking any action that you possibly can to try to lure him. Back in to try to really attract him if you’re trying to somehow get a guy who’s moving away from you inevitably.

It’s going to be a problem because what you’re doing is here’s a guy who is doing something that’s unattractive.

He’s not giving you attention.

He’s not treating you the way that you maybe would like or need to be treated. And so we train people how to treat us. So here he is ignoring you pulling away and you’re going to go into overdrive to try to attract someone to you who is not treating you in the way that you need to be treated.

The solution here is actually a little bit counterintuitive.

But what you have to do is the opposite you actually have to let this guy go and begin focusing on yourself.

Now you may want to skip this article off right now and say that’s not the solution I want that’s too painful to think about.

 here is the bottom line that pain that you’re thinking about letting someone go who’s ignoring you that is the exact pain that is the doorway

That is the direct path to the right person because that path of pain is basically you saying I am going to find a way to be. Okay.

I’m going to be able to accept that. I can’t continue to depend or rely on other people to fill myself to find that happiness that fulfillment that’s something that’s only going to come from my own actions my own spiritual relationship or connection my own internal relationship.

If you can’t reach that point where you can accept that then you’re always going to be in a place of dependence or reliance on someone else.

I can’t imagine and would never want to imagine my life without my wife.

I wouldn’t want to imagine it. But if I’m so dependent on her that I will shrivel up and Fall to Pieces.

Well, that’s a problem, because I have people who rely on me. I have, you know a little sun and a little daughter that depend on me I have People through my career my community.

I can’t be someone who can just shrivel up. So the bottom line if a guy is pulling away if you starting to ignore you act like a queen and what a queen would do in a relationship. If a man is not giving her what she needed.

She would draw a boundary she would put up a red velvet rope and say Hey, listen, I’m letting you into my life into a relationship with me.

However, there’s a bit of a Red Velvet Rope here just like you see the red velvet ropes in front of exclusive movie premieres or restaurants or nightclubs.

There should be a red velvet rope in front of your life and it’s a boundary.

It’s a boundary saying it’s really important that I be treated this way and I’m not being treated this way and that’s not okay for me and either he changes or it’s time for you to act like the queen.

move on and focus on your passions focus on being helpful and giving back to the people around you. It’s about taking actions doing things that fill you up.

Give you that level of confidence and it also means if you really do desire to be in a loving committed relationship it means for you to get out there and to try to meet other men, even if you really like this other guy, it’s best for you to put the effort in to meet more different higher quality men at the end of the day if someone is ignoring you and you’re going after him, it’s only going to be unattractive.

So maybe if he sees you valuing yourself, going out there and meeting other people it will change his perspective a little bit. He may start to see or value you in different ways and at that point, he may really try to get you back.

Then it’s up to you to really determine if he really is the type of man that you deserve if you found any bit of this article on Why Men Lose Interest valuable, please share

It’s a painful experience to be deeply connected with a man, only to find him pulling away and losing interest.

Have you ever been with a man who seemed to really like you, only to begin distancing himself and saying he really wasn’t ready for a commitment?

Why is it that he ends up marrying the next woman he dates? Was he lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment?

The answer comes down to the deep emotional attraction.

In all likelihood, he was not lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment. In fact, unlike women, a man’s default mode is that he is not ready for (or even looking for) a commitment.

It takes a special kind of deep emotional attraction for a man to feel compelled to keep a woman in his life with a shared promise of committed intentions for the future.

What creates that intense emotional bond for men?

I can tell you one thing for certain. Men experience relationships for what they are here and now, in the present moment. This is a stereotype, but because there is so much truth in it you would be foolish to ignore its implications for your relationship.

Research with men and women in the early stages of dating relationships has shown that women typically consider themselves to be “in a relationship” by the time the third date rolls around.

In contrast, men do not consider themselves to be “in a relationship” until several months of exclusive dating have occurred.

Even when he’s exclusively dating one woman, a man will be surprised when his counterpart suggests the relationship is exclusive. Why is that?

Again, it comes back to the fact that men tend to spend less time plotting and planning the course of their lives in terms of relationships. Men do not define their lives (as much) by where things seem to be going in a relationship.

For your man to reach a point where he desires a committed relationship, something very significant must occur first.

He must experience an intense emotional attraction that causes him to feel less alive when he is not in your presence.

 

It’s a painful experience to be deeply connected with a man, only to find him pulling away and losing interest.

Have you ever been with a man who seemed to really like you, only to begin distancing himself and saying he really wasn’t ready for a commitment?

Why is it that he ends up marrying the next woman he dates? Was he lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment?

The answer comes down to the deep emotional attraction.

In all likelihood, he was not lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment. In fact, unlike women, a man’s default mode is that he is not ready for (or even looking for) a commitment.

It takes a special kind of deep emotional attraction for a man to feel compelled to keep a woman in his life with a shared promise of committed intentions for the future.

What creates that intense emotional bond for men?

I can tell you one thing for certain. Men experience relationships for what they are here and now, in the present moment. This is a stereotype, but because there is so much truth in it you would be foolish to ignore its implications for your relationship.

Research with men and women in the early stages of dating relationships has shown that women typically consider themselves to be “in a relationship” by the time the third date rolls around.

In contrast, men do not consider themselves to be “in a relationship” until several months of exclusive dating have occurred. 

Even when he’s exclusively dating one woman, a man will be surprised when his counterpart suggests the relationship is exclusive. Why is that?

Again, it comes back to the fact that men tend to spend less time plotting and planning the course of their lives in terms of relationships. Men do not define their lives (as much) by where things seem to be going in a relationship.

For your man to reach a point where he desires a committed relationship, something very significant must occur first.

He must experience an intense emotional attraction that causes him to feel less alive when he is not in your presence.

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